Anand Karaj: Why does the groom walked in front during the ceremony?
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People follow the customs got from others.
According to Guru Granth Sahib, Lavaan of both are with Akal Purkh.
Hence, both can walk together. There is no restriction according to Gurmat.
Laavan are for the union of soul with the Akal Purkh. Both male and female have to be committed to the teachings of Gurbani
ਹਰਿ ਪਹਿਲੜੀ ਲਾਵ ਪਰਵਿਰਤੀ ਕਰਮ ਦ੍ਰਿੜਾਇਆ ਬਲਿ ਰਾਮ ਜੀਉ ॥ – 773
Firmness with the Shabad are specifically required.
The relation of Affection love have to genrated by praises of Akal Purkh and acquiring His qualities.
ਨਿਰਮਲੁ ਭਉ ਪਾਇਆ ਹਰਿ ਗੁਣ ਗਾਇਆ ਹਰਿ ਵੇਖੈ ਰਾਮੁ ਹਦੂਰੇ ॥ – 774
Mind should be filled with divine love and desire to meet Akal Purkh
ਜਨੁ ਨਾਨਕੁ ਬੋਲੇ ਤੀਜੀ ਲਾਵੈ ਹਰਿ ਉਪਜੈ ਮਨਿ ਬੈਰਾਗੁ ਜੀਉ ॥੩॥- 774
Constant attachment with Akal Purkh is required all the time through the Shabad Guru
ਹਰਿ ਮੀਠਾ ਲਾਇਆ ਮੇਰੇ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਭਾਇਆ ਅਨਦਿਨੁ ਹਰਿ ਲਿਵ ਲਾਈ ॥ 774
Then only one can be one with the Akal Purkh.
ਜਨੁ ਨਾਨਕੁ ਬੋਲੇ ਚਉਥੀ ਲਾਵੈ ਹਰਿ ਪਾਇਆ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਅਵਿਨਾਸੀ ॥੪॥੨॥- 774
Once both husband and wife are one with Akal Purkh with the help of Gurbani. They will have same opinion with the help of Gurbani. Then they will be able to develop a successful family system.
ਏਕ ਜੋਤਿ ਦੁਇ ਮੂਰਤੀ ਧਨ ਪਿਰੁ ਕਹੀਐ ਸੋਇ ॥੩॥ – 788
Please go through the following article for details
http://www.geocities.ws/sarbjitsingh/Bani3840GurMag201003.pdf
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No Sikh principle is involved in the tradition of a man walking ahead of a woman for the lavan ceremony. it is just a tradition.
The reason behind this tradition lies in the societal set up, where a man was expected to be responsible for the welfare and protection of the wife physically as well as financially. Taking the lead means accepting such responsibility. The tradition started because earlier women were totally dependent on man.
Now the circumstances have changed. Now women are independent and enjoy equality with men.
So if a woman declares that she will take responsibility of the man in every respect, she should be allowed to lead.
Some people suggest that man and woman should walk side by side. if we decide to do so then one of the both will walk closer to the Guru and the other away from the Guru.
As the Guru loves both his daughters and sons equally, so they should walk equidistant from the Guru which is possible only if onen of them walks ahead the other.
Since in Sikhism both man and woman are equal, we should start the practice of allowing the one to take the lead who declares to take responsibility of the other.
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This is old tradition. but it makes no difference who walks in front. Only the ignorant will make this an issue.
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