Is DAHEJ/DOWRY acceptable in Sikhi?
Share
You must login to ask a question.
Please briefly explain why you feel this question should be reported.
Please briefly explain why you feel this answer should be reported.
Please briefly explain why you feel this user should be reported.
Respected Lohit ji
The dowry mentioned in Gurbani
ਹਰਿ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਮੇਰੇ ਬਾਬੁਲਾ ਹਰਿ ਦੇਵਹੁ ਦਾਨੁ ਮੈ ਦਾਜੋ ॥
ਹਰਿ ਕਪੜੋ ਹਰਿ ਸੋਭਾ ਦੇਵਹੁ ਜਿਤੁ ਸਵਰੈ ਮੇਰਾ ਕਾਜੋ ॥
ਹਰਿ ਹਰਿ ਭਗਤੀ ਕਾਜੁ ਸੁਹੇਲਾ ਗੁਰਿ ਸਤਿਗੁਰਿ ਦਾਨੁ ਦਿਵਾਇਆ ॥
ਖੰਡਿ ਵਰਭੰਡਿ ਹਰਿ ਸੋਭਾ ਹੋਈ ਇਹੁ ਦਾਨੁ ਨ ਰਲੈ ਰਲਾਇਆ ॥(78)
By the way, Gurbani is introverted. but in this Shabad explains that give me a dowry in the form of knowledge that will be useful to me all my life. Give me Akal Purakh ‘s name / naam as a form of cloth mean, that is to say, give me such auspicious virtues which bring glory to me and glory to my parents. In Gurbani, any kind of greed is called wrong, even if it is greed in the form of dowry.
Let us impart such virtues to our sons and daughters by teaching them Gurbani so that they do not fall prey to any kind of greed like dowry.
Demanding dahej is not at all aaceptable in Sikhi.
in fact Rehat Maryada says that there should be no match making out of monetary considerations whethere on the part of the bride or the bridegroom.