Please can someone assist me on getting on the right path. Im a 42 year old woman and have been trying to concieve for the past 7 years. Nothing , including medical treatments has worked. This has led to sadness and depression. Counselling helps a little but the inner sadness is deep. Its also affecting my marriage now and i keep thinking of leaving him. The sadness of not being a mother – my husband cant cope with my emotions. This leads to arguments.
My faith in gurbani is being questioned!!! Even when i do paath/ardaas i feel empty and numb. I am also feeling sad with god ? please suggest anything to get my faith back into gurbani/waheguru. please help my understanding. Thanks in advance.
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Almighty always listens to your ardas. you can wait and try for all medical assistance available
Thank you. Just losing hope! feel sad that im so disconnected.
Bhain Ji I can understand your predicament of not being able to be a mother. If medical treatment has failed then the only way is to be happy in Bhana of Akal Purakh. Hukam razai chalna Nanak likhiya Naal. Remember even Bebe Nanaki, sister of Guru Nanak had no child. When we start asking Akal Purakh to fulfil our materialistic demands Guru says
ਨਰ ਚਾਹਤ ਕਛੁ ਅਉਰ ਅਉਰੈ ਕੀ ਅਉਰੈ ਭਈ ॥ ਚਿਤਵਤ ਰਹਿਓ ਠਗਉਰ ਨਾਨਕ ਫਾਸੀ ਗਲਿ ਪਰੀ ॥੩੮॥ AGGS 1428
Nar Chahat Kach Aur Aurai Ki Aurai Bhai || Chitvat Rehiou Thagour Nanak Fasi Gal Pari ||38|
People wish for something, but something different happens. Their mind (Mann) is always busy in getting more and more. When they don’t get what they want, they try different deceptive ways and are always in that vicious circle and never get out of it. We then get disappointed and lose faith in God.
We should ask in our Ardas
ਵਿਣੁ ਤੁਧੁ ਹੋਰੁ ਜਿ ਮੰਗਣਾ ਸਿਰਿ ਦੁਖਾ ਕੈ ਦੁਖ ॥ ਦੇਹਿ ਨਾਮੁ ਸੰਤੋਖੀਆ ਉਤਰੈ ਮਨ ਕੀ ਭੁਖ ॥ AGGS 958
Vin Tudh Hor J Mangana Sir Dukha Kai Dukh || Deh Naam Santokhia Otarai Mann Ki Bhukh ||
To ask for anything other than You, God is the most miserable of miseries. Please bless me with Your Virtues and make me contented; may the hunger of my mind (Mann) of worldly desires be satisfied.
So be contented in what you have and live in Rza of Hukam. Though it is very difficult BUT it is the only way. No point in arguing with husband and leaving him.
Please listen to the video hopefully will help