My Wife and I are from a Christian background, i was openly atheist when we married and she was still Christian and claimed that she didn’t care.
After becoming extremely depressed, struggling with drugs and suicide, I am no free of these problems and have become a Sikh.
I am preparing to take Amrit this weekend and my wife has told me for the 4th time that she is struggling with staying attracted to me now that I am keeping kes. (my facial hair is pretty sad for a 26 year old)
How do I stay confident as a Sikh keeping kes when I know my wife finds it unattractive?
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The teachings of Guru Granth Sahib emphasize inner beauty over outward appearance. While it’s understandable that your wife may have concerns about your kes, remember that it’s a personal decision based on your faith and beliefs. Communication with your wife is important. Stay confident in your decision to keep kes as a symbol of your love and devotion to Waheguru.
ਸਤਿਕਾਰ ਯੋਗ ਜੀਓ,
ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕਾ ਖ਼ਾਲਸਾ, ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕੀ ਫ਼ਤਹਿ।।
ਦਾਸ ਦੀ ਸਮਝ ਅਨੁਸਾਰ ਸਿੱਖੀ ਵਿਚ ਬਾਣੀ ਤੇ ਬਾਣਾ ਦੋਨੋਂ ਹੀ ਜ਼ਰੂਰੀ ਹਨ। ਕਿਸੇ ਇੱਕ ਨੂੰ ਵੀ ਨਜ਼ਰ ਅੰਦਾਜ਼ ਨਹੀਂ ਕੀਤਾ ਜਾ ਸਕਦਾ। ਭੁੱਲ ਚੁੱਕ ਦੀ ਖਿਮਾਂ ਕਰਨੀ ਜੀ।
ਆਦਰ ਸਹਿਤ,
ਆਪ ਦਾ ਵੀਰ
In my opinion you need to believe yourself and your decisions. I believe if you become a true Sikh of the Guru your wisdom and inner beauty will impress your wife and she will be attracted towards your new and radiant personality. Follow your path with confidence and leave rest to the Almighty Waheguru.
While continuing your efforts to become a righteous person, getting rid of vices so as to reach the stage of spiritual equipoise and spiritual bliss and achieving the goal of emancipation/salvation in this life itself, please pray to Akalpurakh for your family members so that they understand what you are trying to do.
Please have lot of patience when you discuss with your family members but don’t try to force anyone to accept your ideas.
Continue your journey, keep on praying, remain positive and hope for the best!