I’m 18, and I don’t want my hair cut. My dad insists that I cut my hair. My dad is Hindu and my mum is Sikh. I am confused, please help
I’m 18, and I don’t want my hair cut. My dad insists that I cut my hair. My dad is Hindu and my mum is Sikh. I am confused, please help
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Beta Ji
If you don’t want to cut your hair, don’t cut it. And explain to your dad that
ਹੁਕਮੀ ਹੋਵਨਿ ਆਕਾਰ
The body is formed according to the Hukam of that Parmaatma and the hair is also under His Hukam. There are natural gifts. Then by cutting the hair one should not violate the Hukam of that Parmaatma. Hope your dad understands.
If cutting hair violates the Hukam, then how will you justify the following?
ਹੁਕਮੈ ਅੰਦਰਿ ਸਭੁ ਕੋ ਬਾਹਰਿ ਹੁਕਮ ਨ ਕੋਇ ॥
ਹੁਕਮੀ ਸਭੇ ਊਪਜਹਿ ਹੁਕਮੀ ਕਾਰ ਕਮਾਹਿ ॥
Hukam of God is not something that can be easily violated.
Jagdeep Singh Ji every human being irrespective of country and religion is born with hair under the Hukam of Perfect Creator (Karta Purakh). Under that Hukam males have beard and moustache even in animal kingdom. That’s the Hukam.
Sir,
As I understand, Hukam means Fundamental laws or tendencies of nature. No one can alter the laws, the hukam.
Can we? ਹੁਕਮੈ ਅੰਦਰਿ ਸਭੁ ਕੋ ਬਾਹਰਿ ਹੁਕਮ ਨ ਕੋਇ ॥
Whether we keep Hair or Cut them, Does it affect the tendency of Hair growth? The answer is NO. Means we don’t violate Hukam.
Now if you say we keep Hair just as a gesture of respect or submission towards Hukam,
My next question is:
Why don’t we do that in all situations then?
The mosquito has a natural tendency to bite (Isn’t it a hukam), does that mean we should offer our body and let mosquitoes bite us?
Grass has a natural tendency to grow, does that mean we should not cut the grass in our lawn?
Veerji tuhade hisaab naal ehda sahi answer ki hai
Jagdeep Singh Ji the only difference between human being and animal is that animals are what they are. Mosquitoes bite, cow eats grass and lion eats meat. They cannot change themselves. Lion will die but not eat grass. Only humans have freedom of choice. Humans can gain knowledge and change themselves. We can make a choice to be vegetarian or non-vegetarian. We are born with hair but have a choice to act according to our Manmat and change it or gain spiritual knowledge from Guru (Gurmat) and act according to that.
Sir,
Now you have shifted your reasoning from following God’s Hukam to Gurmat.
I would like you to know the references from SGGS where Gurmat (Gurbani) highlights the importance of Keeping Hair. I failed to find spiritual reasons behind Sikhs keeping kesh, as I couldn’t find any reference from Gurbani. Instead, what I found was “you love one God all other doubts will fade away, (it doesn’t matter) whether you keep kesh(Hair) long or shave it completely”, which is contrary to a common belief that Sikhs keep kesh for spiritual reasons.
ਕਬੀਰ ਪ੍ਰੀਤਿ ਇਕ ਸਿਉ ਕੀਏ ਆਨ ਦੁਬਿਧਾ ਜਾਇ ॥ਭਾਵੈ ਲਾਂਬੇ ਕੇਸ ਕਰੁ ਭਾਵੈ ਘਰਰਿ ਮੁਡਾਇ ॥੨੫॥
Also, what about those omnivores? Don’t they have freedom of choice? From your answer, I got the impression that Gurmat promotes vegetarianism. Please clarify.
One more thing, I agree with S. Gulbarg Singh Basi (a Scholar) on the point that Khande ki Pahul is not essential to be a Sikh, you just live the message of Bani enshrined in Sri Guru Granth Sahib to be a Sikh. However, Kesh was made compulsory as part of 5Ks to those who have taken Khande ki Pahul.
This means Kesh may not be required to be a Sikh. Here I strongly need a reference from SGGS in order to understand the spiritual significance of Kesh.
Jagdeep Singh Ji you are very well versed in Gurbani. Gurmat is wisdom we get from Gurbani in SGGS. The Shabd you mentioned means Bhagat Kabeer is saying keeping long hair (Sadhus used to keep Jattan) or mundan (removing hair) as a ritual (Karamkand) is of no use if you don’t love One God. Loving God is loving the creation and laws of nature. As you know there is no mention of keeping hair in SGGS but the wisdom (Gurmat) we get from SGGS is that perfect Creator created all human beings with hair, so we should follow laws of nature (That’s Hukam). When we use wisdom of our Mann (Manmat) then we go against the laws of nature (Gurmat, Hukam). You are right there is no spirituality keeping hair but it is following law of nature (Hukam). With that I conclude my resplonse.
Please let your dad know that you are not keeping hair just to look like that , my hair is reflection of my inner feeling, my inner divinity the GOD within. You want me to destroy this, give him the choice with full respect.